I like to meet and have get together with my friends once a while. Not only it gives me chance to mingle with my friends/ fellow moms but also its play date for my children. These meet ups are super fun times for complete family. Recently I visited my friend Sheena who’s is mother of 5 year old Boy Karan. She invited 2-3 friends and their children for a kitty party at her home. I and my kids were excited for the party.
We reached her house on time for the party. After few minutes children started playing and moms got busy in chatting with each other. Everything was going fine until children saw Karan’s collection of toy cars and bikes. All children wanted to explore his amazing collection of toys. This is absolutely not acceptable to Karan as he doesn’t like anyone else touching his toys.
Karan is smart boy who loves to collect toys. He has huge collection of toy cars, bikes, buses, trains as wherever he goes he gets one. Being only child Karan is pampered and loved by everyone in the family. Initially he asked all children not to touch his toys as they belong to him. But kids being kids no one listened him and continued playing with toys .He expressed his anger by screaming, crying. Sheena tried all ways to console him and telling him to share toys only for few minutes with everyone. But Karan was stubborn and not ready to accept the fact.
We tried to take our kids attention away from Karan’s toys and calm Karan. But one kid found toy car below the sofa, and as soon as he saw his car in her hand, he started hitting. The kid been rescued from Karan, but he didn’t calmed and started throwing things in the house to hit other kids. Other children followed crying story and it became difficult for us to control them. By any means he didn’t stop hitting and Sheena has to slap him. Tear started rolling down her eyes and she was feeling guilty, clueless and embarrassed. Kitty party turned into crying ground and this is when we discussed about Karan’s stubborn behaviour.
Sheena told us that that Karan is not getting mingled with other children and why he is not having any friends. No one wants to play with him and he ends up in being alone. He is not sharing his belongings and hitting other children. Sheena was feeling helpless and has stopped going out or calling children at home because of Karan’s aggressive behaviour.
Sheena has taken many efforts already by bringing number of toys, teaching him importance of sharing. But she was feeling clueless to see Karan’s behaviour, and slapping him isn’t the right way.
In this situation no one is at fault. Sheena is not the only mother who is facing this problem, but there are many moms who are sailing in the same boat. many kids get into fight because of not sharing .To find out solution of this problem we fellow mummies have discussed and came up with few tips.These are ways to teach children importance of sharing. It’s been said early childhood education helps children to grow with values in their adulthood. Every child is different and every mommy has her own experiences and tips. Below are some of the points from moms who are trying their best to teach importance of sharing.
Following are some tips collected for teaching children importance of sharing:
# 1. Help children to become social:
When children meet other children regularly or more often they learn social skills. School, classes, activity centres are really helpful for this. Try to accompany children to family gatherings, birthday parties, festive occasions, where they can meet other children, adults. Arrange play dates, meet ups, get together with other children. As it will give them chance to mingle with other children. These social activity will help them in great extend to learn sharing and caring others.
# 2.By narrating stories:
Children like to listen stories as they learn to imagine from them. Parents should use stories as a medium to teach importance of sharing. Frame a story which narrates importance of sharing, or how sharing helps everyone. Explain how it gives happiness, blessings, and many friends too.
# 3.By enacting:
Try to show importance of sharing by acting. As children are great observers and learn from adults in the house. Show a small act of sharing your things with your friends, family, and helpers. Share your food, books, accessories, gifts with others and tell your child how sharing spreads happiness to all. When you are sharing a food or gift with your helper, your child is going to observe and follow it.
# 4. Take help of cartoons:
Children love cartoons undoubtedly. If their favourite cartoon is kind to others they will also try to be kind. While playing these cartoons seat with your child and explain what is sharing? How favourite cartoon character has done great job of sharing. Children definitely get influenced by their favourite cartoons characters and their kind acts.
# 5. Schools:
Schools are the places where children spend maximum time and learn new things. If school arrange knowledge sharing session on” How to share and care for others ? “, It will be great lesson for children. More than parents children follow to their teachers and this exactly thing will help them to learn good values. Teachers can set examples by sharing things .And teachers should appreciate students on their noble acts for encouraging them and others.