Being parent is joy and challenge at the same time.And for mommy dear the journey Journey starts from conceiving stage itself.Mommy has many responsibilities from taking care of baby ,feeding and other household chores.After delivering baby the initial period is difficult as mommy is not used to new routine of sleep less nights and soothing and calming baby .When children grow the responsibilities change like running behind children ,playing for long hours, schools,studies,illness,parties list in never ending .Some times mommies get tired ,stressed ,exausted, frustrated and feel ignored too.Work load at work place ,at house,children may make you stressed mommy . Actually who likes piling dirty dishes in sink , empty fridge , buckets of dirty clothes , food spread on flour and kids yelling for un complete homework.Anyone in this situation with so many responsibilities may get stressed.
But just relax mommy take a deep breath and think “ This won’t last , and it will also pass” Be happy and enjoy this moment .Probably after few days you will miss cleaning so dirty house ,clothes and diapers . You may long for these naughty moments, small rabbit tooth , lovey dovy talks ,cuddles and giggles.As it wont come again when kids will grow up they will get busy in their lives . Mommy it is extremely important to be Happy in life as happy parents can raise happy kids .And happy kids can be smarter and brighter too. Being cheerful is not that hard thing , you have to keep few things in mind and make a habit of being positive and patient.
Few tried things by fellow mommies which will definitely help when you are stressed :
# 1. When don’t want to cook
Cooking always 3 course meal or 4 tier lunch box is not necessary mommy. When you don’t want to enter kitchen just book a table in your favorite restaurant and enjoy your meal .It’s absolutely ok to have outside food or order food from outside .And if available look for kids friendly restaurant as your kids can also play and enjoy food with you. Or other option just prefer cooking one dish /pot meal like pasta, noodles , Vegetable pulao/khichadi . Cooking one dish meal not only saves time but also it saves cooking efforts , energy as well.
# 2. When extremely tired
Mommy when you are dead tired just have a nap helps . When “I can’t do it anymore ” signal is given by your body and mood , just stop there , Don’t drag yourself and get more tired. Continuous working is not possible for anyone ,so don’t expect it from yourself as well. Just forget about work at office , work at home and never ending To Do’s list and enjoy a nap,or listen music or do anything which will make you feel fresh . And start working when you feel fresh ,energetic again.
# 3. When worried
Worrying is not going to solve any problem ,but there are times when you are very much worried , stressed . Just don’t bear it alone. in this era of technology parents , best friends, colleagues are just a phone call away. Just make a call to them talk about your fear , worry or just plan a meet with them .Discussing with other fellow moms ,friends ,parents help to relive stress and also it gives their idea and their opinions on your problem .Many time very big problem for us become very small when we see at it from others perspective .
# 4. When house is on dirt
Try to take a help from helpers if possible for household cleaning ,cooking ,laundry activities. Ask help from husband ,parents and some small favors from kids as well . Doing everything alone makes that work look more difficult. Prioritize tasks and then do. Avoid doing less priority tasks when you have full plate of high priority tasks.
# 5. When you feel very low
Some time when kids are busy in studies ,school ,activities and pappa is busy with his office work mommy may feel ignored ,lonely . To avoid it ,make friends ,talk with fellow mommies , join meet ups and never ignore yourself. Pamper yourself with spas ,massages , parlor visits , kitty parties . these activities will help to be away from loneliness. Pursuing any hobby is great idea too. It gives feeling of achieving something when you see your creation ,your work .
# 6.When you are not well
When you are ill try to take complete rest or at least as much as possible.Take good care of yourself which will help for faster recovery. Keep all works which are not so urgent to do latter.Don’t worry about anything as once you feel better you can do it.Include light exercising like walking , swimming, yoga in your routine to maintain fitness and good health.
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