I’ve Seen My Mommy Friend Struggling With Depression – and The Reason Makes Me Mad

postpartum depression
postpartum depression

“Being mother is learning about strengths you didn’t know you had and dealing with fears you didn’t know existed – Linda Wooten”. There are numerous quotes about motherhood but I could relate unreservedly with this stupendous quote during an incident that recently happened to me.

The other day, I met my colleague and good friend Teena who gave birth to a beautiful baby girl a month ago. On meeting her I was curious to know more about her adorable bundle of joy. It’s Teena’s first and much-awaited baby as she had been planning for it for a long time. But to my despair, Teena wasn’t excited to share much about her little angel!

I looked at Teena carefully and there was no doubt about it: there was a drastic difference in her personality. She was no more the smiling, giggling and jolly girl who always had a sweet smile on her face. She had lost the brightness in her eyes and the charm on her face. To be honest, Teena was looking completely exhausted and upset. Something was seriously wrong with her…

When I insisted upon the reason of her despair, she couldn’t control her tears. She opened up about all her worries and fears. She was very disturbed about whether or not she would be able to take proper care of her baby. Could she really be a good mother? She wanted everything to be the best for her daughter, but her relatives and family members bombarded her with so many suggestions and so much advice that she was feeling utterly lost…

Teena confessed to me that she had been criticised by her family for not waking up in the night after a particular interval, for feeding her baby. She needed time to recover and get ready for her new schedule, but no one understood. Some people had even raised questions about how she would manage her work and baby at the same time. These judgements made her even more worried, anxious and hopeless. She couldn’t understand her tearfulness and guilty feelings which she had never had before. The judgment by others was pushing this new mommy to the edge and she was doubting her parenting style and capabilities!

It was clear to me that Teena was going through clinical postpartum depression. Things were only getting worse due to the lack of understanding from her loved ones. Motherhood brings many new responsibilities for the mommy like spending sleepless nights for feeding the baby, baby care, and managing regular household work. In this scenario, depression can happen to any new mommy if she experiences a lack of support. Some of the symptoms include feeling angry, worried, anxious, irritated, sad, hopeless, and disappointed and having no patience. Some moms may also have physical fatigue or illness and take a long time to recover from pregnancy and delivery.

I have contributed this article at World of moms and Please read complete article here  on world of moms…

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