When I came across the term “Helicopter parent /cosseter” , being mommy I had question in my mind “Am I Also the one ?.The answer was not “NO”. Somewhere I felt that It’s my style of parenting. I’m overprotective and over caring mommy just like many other fellow mothers. I always want best for my children and thus make sure I’m available to them as and when they need .Probably i hover on them all time and get panic when my kids fall while playing in playground ,when kids try to climb or run faster, When kids get ready for school or even their pencil falls from table. I didn’t even realise this over anxious , helicopter parent in me is harmful for my children. Actually there are parents like me who are worried for each and everything related with their child.
Helicopter parent/cosseter means Parent who always hover on their children .They want to help children do everything but don’t realise that extra support and over involving becomes harmful for children.Helicopter parenting style should be avoided.
If you are also helicopter parent then think over the parenting style again:
# 1. Studies today show that being always supporting and too involving in their childhood could lead your child to depression and anxiety in their adulthood. So mommy try to change your habits of getting too much involved in each and everything related with child. It doesn’t mean stop helping your children but check up to what extent he/she needs help.Help and care should be in limit.
# 2.Helicopter parenting can bring several problems for children when they grow up.Children having these parents don’t want to struggle for anything as they think achieving / getting things is parent’s responsibility.
# 3.After certain age ask your child to do daily chores on own it will help them to be independent. E.g. If the child is 6 years old and can tie shoe lace and button up shirt then let him/her do it on own every day. Don’t help to do things which children can do easily.
# 4.If you help your child in completing 100 tasks in a day then reduce it to 90 initially and check how he/she manages. Then reduce number of tasks you do slowly. Always appreciate on completion of each task by child for encouragement.
# 5. If a child fights in with other children, ask to solve the problem on own. Do not interfere and protect your children for every fight they have in schools /playground. Resolving conflicts will help them have great relationships in future.
# 6. For children going to primary schools (Or above) let them try to solve their study problems on their own .Ask them to take initiative to complete home work on own. Guidance in studies is necessary but it should not be to the extent that child considers home work as a parent’s responsibility.
# 7. When it time to take decisions by children do not interfere too much. Explain what is good and what is bad for them also what will be the consequences of the decision and allow him/her to take own decision. Decision making is really important quality and it will help your children when they will grow up.